Jamaican Mommies by Shanoy Coombs: From Jamaica; for the world
Hello mommies, let me apologise for not being on top of the game as it relates to posts. My life has taken on a few turns and this post will give you an idea of why I’ve been so busy. Recently, I started a blog post from my phone about putting the oomph back in your sex life post baby. While I think that is still a topic to be pursued, It somehow got erased and sitting looking at my blank screen, with my one year old in hand, got me thinking about being the unemployed mother. Many of you may not have known, but I have been made redundant from my ‘executive title’ position since very early December of last year. Since then I have been on an optimist’s high and jumped right into freelancing. After all, in my capacity of Public Relations Account Executive, I singlehandedly managed the department and as such knew the ins and outs of the business to operate on my own. So I did just that.
This process however has not always been as fruitful as expected. From late payments (just received a final payment from a job done in November)to an uncertain market, I’ve had my share of challenges,but as a mother there are definate benefits-not so much from being unemployed, but more from being a ‘freelancing-mostly at home mom’ (small mercies I tell you). So one of the major benefits is more time with my precious of course. When I look back at my 9-5 and beyond, it seemed so callous in comparison to seeing my daughter grow, hearing her utter new words and do little actions that gets me on the phone telling everyone, you won’t believe what Kailee just did. Of course there’s also the benefit of sleeping in late, having my baby SEE me every morning and those little wake up hugs are something to live for.
Being somewhat unemployed at home has therefore opened my eyes to all that I’ve been missing from my child’s life. It also got me thinking that every country should allow new moms at least the first year of their child’s life away from work. I mean being a mom is a FULL time job, so why is it that society treats it as secondary to a ‘job job’. Alas I could go on about the merits of more time with your child/ren, but the major reason for this post was to show that it is true that behind every dark cloud, there is indeed a silver lining and in this instance my lining has become gold as I treasure all these little mommy and me momments. Sadly, while I love freelancing, it currently reeks of uncertainity. I have devised a few startegies to pull in more business, but at the other end if a position still jumps at me, I do the occassional interview (Financial stability reasons). So even as I, the ‘unemployed’ mother waits, I may not be earning a steady income, but the last 3 months at home can definately be seen as one of my most precious time as a mother. Are you a Stay at home or unemployed mother? Let us know how you cope as well. Cheers!