Jamaican Mommies by Shanoy Coombs: From Jamaica; for the world
We’ve all heard at sometime or another about sparing the rod and spoiling the child. In the United States, it is said that the rod is often spared and the child spoiled. Back in Jamaica, more often than not, the rod is not spared, nor the child spoiled. In other parts of the world, this ‘decision’ lies in 1. Who your parents are 2. The laws of the land. Generally, though, different parts of the world have been taking different approaches to a ‘good beating’, so what’s your take, Should the rod be spared at all times and the child spoiled? or vice versa? What other ways can we as parents discipline children effectively without ‘spanking’. In fact, should spanking be absolete? Let us Know. At the end of the week, I’ll post a bit on what professionals have to say about the issue.
N.B. I found this image to be pretty funny.
0 thought on Discussion #2- Sparing the Rod and Spoiling the child
I know some of those kids in some countries could do well with some spanking. Ever see those kids on my super sweet sixteen??
Spanking of course when its necessary. I think some ppl are afraid to spank because they may have temper issues and dont know the line between abuse and punishment. Spanking is a punishment for discipline not abuse so I am all for it.
I find Jamaican kids to be so much more respectful and better-behaved than American kids – so there's definitely something to be said for spanking… as long as the line isn't crossed and it becomes abuse rather than a disciplinary method.
The word of God is never wrong "Spare not the rod and spoil the child" Spankings must be deliberate though… 3 swats on the bare behind!! and should not be done in anger. Only slap the rear (as it is built for taking slaps)… the time it takes you to pull down undie or diaper and put child across the lap, should be time enough to think about if a spanking is right for the offense. Hitting out of frustration is not safe, as u can hurt the child (speaking from experience) if ur upset… put the child in time out until calm enough to deal with issue. and never promise a spanking and don't deliver… child will see u as a joke.. all talk.
Sometimes a child who won't hear will have to feel to learn!!
Interesting comments. I would love to get an America's perspective on this issue. I'll deliberately get a few Americans to comment on this, so we can get varied views on this issue.
I have spanked my children. I know that each child is different. Spanking does not work for my son but makes us both escalate. I also use timeouts, taking away privileges and discussions. Spanking is not my first approach.
i think that "spanking" a child does not prevents him/her from beig spoil. parents just need to build that relationship with their child, where the child know that respect is due at all time, you are the parent and whatever you say goes.